Saturday, September 5, 2015

Real Wedding Advice from Real People

When I got marries, I did things quickly,

Without much planning and advices, we went on 

Cheap and simple. Today when I look back, I think 

"I wish I could plan it all over again".

I would do it all differently. So, for all the new couples ive

Decided to gather some tips from people who did it. 

So stop the horses, and read, you may find them realy helpful. 

Good luck.


1. It’s about the two of you…

" On your wedding day… kiss each other, 

hold each other, and say sweet things to each other.

This day is all about the two of you and nobody else. 

Everyone else is there to enjoy and share in your happiness, 

But at the end of the day it is all about you. "


2. "Choosing the person who is going to 
Marry you is hard. You want someone who “gets”
You, who can share a little bit about your relationship
And your love with all of your guests. Because, 
In the end, that's why we're all here, right?
Because two people loved each other enough that 
they want to stand up in front of their family and friends
And make promises and vows and be with one 
Another for the rest of their lives."

3. "Compromise. Compromise on things
 That matter for the family."

4.  "During the ceremony, you might not 
Be able to get the ring on your spouse's finger. 
Stress, heat, nervousness and etc. 
All culminate into swollen fingers. 
That ring that fit just fine last week
Totally won't fit without some serious
Shoving after saying those vows."

5.  "You really won't care about the little
Stuff, no really. It's not because you didn't care 
About it enough before, it's because when 
You're in the moment, there's no longer anything 
You can do to change it, so it no longer matters. 
I was surprised at how little I cared about things 
When they didn't work out on my wedding day."

6.  "You will still care about the big stuff.
And something will go wrong to ruin at least one big
Thing, and it will bother you for quite a while after your wedding. 
Mine was we didn't get a first dance because of a surprise
Limo showing up to whisk us away.... So we rushed through the 
Cake and totally skipped the first dance. I am still pissed
 I didn't get a first dance to this day."

7. "Everyone will lie to you, through their teeth, 
On the day of your wedding. Seriously. I'm surprised 
At how many people just flat out lied about one thing or another, 
Whether in an attempt to ensure I won't worry about it or they
Just flat out didn't know so they told me what 
They thought I wanted to hear."

8. "You might not be able to SLEEP on 
Your wedding night. Let's put aside the post-nuptial 
Nook that's hotly debated on the wedding night. 
My new husband and I couldn't calm down,
Despite being exhausted, to fall asleep. 
We were just so keyed up and talking about what an
Awesome time we had, no amount of relaxing, hot showers,
Benadryl or whatever would get us to pass out. We had to be
Up super early too for our honeymoon flight, so meandering onto
A cruise ship with 2 hours of sleep totally sucked."

9.  "Depending on how much time Wedding Planning
Took up prior to the wedding, you might find a lack 
Of things to do for a couple weeks afterwards. 
It takes some serious adjustment to realize that after
However long focusing on this one thing for this one day...
It's over, and you no longer have to worry about those 
Spreadsheets or DIY projects, it's totally over. 
You now have loads of free time."

10.  "Things you think would be a no brainer, 
Are not no brainers. Write down who you want in pictures
And then tell those people so they know too. 
You'd be surprised how many guests just assume they're
Going to be in pictures and stick around, 
And how many guests who are close family 
That just take off."

11.  "You will be surprised at who gives you gifts 
And who doesn't. This is a touchy one since 
Everyone says, "Oh, you should never expect a gift." 
Well, I didn't expect gifts, having each and every 
But it didn't mean I wasn't surprised that one guest 
Who without fail sends us a card for every holiday,
Including the most arbitrary ones (labor day, really?!),
Didn't even get us a Congratulations card. 
It stuck out because it was very unlike them.
Expectation? Maybe. Odd? Certainly."

12. "The buck doesn't stop there.  
You think since the wedding is over, the money is 
Done leaving your account? HA! Wedding dress
Cleaning can range from $80 - $300 depending on
What you need done and how you want it "preserved." 
Not to mention postage for the Thank You cards
And getting pictures printed that your family and
Friends took, or maybe even from your photographer 
Depending on the package you purchased. Oh, 
And the honeymoon, one tends to spend a lot of 
Money on a honeymoon, even if it was pre-paid and
"All inclusive."

13. "Slow down to take on the day!
I wish I would have slowed down and taken on the 
Day more. It goes by so fast, like the blink of an eye, 
That there were many details that I do not remember. 
We had a large wedding of 200 people so I was not
Able to talk to everyone, dance to every song I
Wanted to, take in all the decorations, do our photo booth,
Or just take on the day. I wish I would have paused, 
Slowed down, and took in everything".

I hope it helped. 
If you have some more advices I would 
Like you to share here.
See you on the  next post,

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