Monday, July 29, 2013

The Best Man

This week We will talk about the best man .
How to Choose a Best man?
What his role at the wedding?

Stay with me, it's going to be interesting…

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Best Man’s Duties Checklist:

Being asked to be the best man in a wedding is a great honor. We don’t get bestowed with the title “best” very often in our lives. It shows that your friend or family member holds your relationship in great esteem. You’ve been his go-to guy in life; now he needs you to be his point person during this weighty rite-of-passage. So don’t just shuffle through your role; instead, help your buddy through the most important day of his life by stepping up and fulfilling your duties with competence.

Just what are those duties?
 Here’s a rundown of your responsibilities as the best man:
Before the Wedding
Plan the bachelor party. This is one of your biggest responsibilities. Luckily, we’ve written up a handy guide on just how to do it.
Get fitted for a tux/suit. In former times, etiquette dictated that the groom pay for rental or purchase of the tuxes for his groomsmen. These days, the groom often expects you to pony up the dough yourself. Personally, I find it in poor taste to ask someone to be in your wedding and then expect them to pay for their own tux, but it’s become a common practice.
Whether you’re buying or renting, paying or not, you will likely be expected to get fitted for your tux or suit. You’re responsible for showing up to the appointment and making sure the other groomsmen do as well.

Go to the rehearsal.       
The day before the wedding, there will be a rehearsal held where the actual wedding will take place. It can’t start without you, so be sure to arrive on time. It should only last for a half an hour or so.
Go to the rehearsal dinner. After the rehearsal, those in the wedding party (and other family and friends the couple may have invited) will head over to the rehearsal dinner, typically held at a restaurant. There is usually toasting at the dinner, and while you are welcome to make a toast, I recommend holding off until your big speech at the wedding reception. You don’t want to use up your best material.

The Day of the Wedding
A wedding day is a whirlwind of activity. Your job as the best man is to take the burden of stress off the groom and onto your shoulders. You’ll be his go-to guy: his support, assistant, and valet. You make sure things are in place, that the groom has what he needs, gets to where he needs to be, and stays relaxed. If you do your job right, the groom will only need to worry about walking down that aisle.

Before the Ceremony
Hang out with the groom as he dresses for the ceremony. Keep your friend calm and relaxed (although not with spirits). There may be some downtime before the ceremony, so play some video games and just chill. Skip questions like, “Dude, are you sure you want to do this?” and instead offer calming encouragement.

Make sure the groom has whatever he needs. 
Not just for the wedding but for the honeymoon as well. He may not be coming back to his house/hotel/apartment before heading off into the sunset with his bride. So make sure he has the marriage license, that he’s all packed, and that the luggage, tickets, passport, etc. get put in the car.
Drive the groom over to the wedding location. Get there at least 30 minutes before the ceremony starts.
Distribute the boutonnieres and make sure the groomsmen are wearing them properly. They should be placed in the buttonhole of the left lapel of one’s suit jacket. If there’s no buttonhole, then pin them there.

Enter with the groom. 
The order of the wedding processional varies by the type of wedding and the couple’s faith tradition, but most frequently the minister or priest, best man, and groom (in that order) come into the church through a side door at the front.
Hold onto the groom’s ring. It’s your job to keep the ring safe and sound in your pocket and to fish it out at the appropriate time during the ceremony.
Escort the maid/matron of honor out of the church at the conclusion of the ceremony.
Sign the marriage license. After the wedding, you may be asked to be a witness and sign the marriage license.

At the Reception
Dance with the matron/maid of honor and the bridesmaids.
Kick off the toasting with the best man speech. This is the job that probably first comes to mind when you think about being the best man. And it’s probably the job you’re most nervous about. But don’t worry, we’ve got you covered with a foolproof plan to knock your speech out of the park.
An interesting side note: The best man used to also read telegrams from well-wishers who couldn’t make it to the ceremony. Sounds like a nice tradition from bygone days.

Decorate the getaway car.
 During the reception, sneak out with your groomsmen and decorate the bride and groom’s getaway mobile. Make it kitschy, a little embarrassing, but no tuber. And of course, don’t get too carried away and damage the car. Use your judgment in how far to take it by how good of sports the bride and groom are.
Tying some cans with string to the underside of the car is classic,
 As is writing on the windows with windows paint. Stick
 Some balloons on the outside and stuff them in the interior. Tape some ribbons to the hubcaps. Stick on some window clings. They make specific ones, but I would go with something truly random .
If they’re renting a limo or a slick set of wheels, you’ll probably have to skip this step.
After the wedding, bring the groom’s tux to the cleaners or back to the rental shop. Take care of this while he’s on the honeymoon.

Great Tips for Writing your Best Man Speech
1.     Remember to introduce yourself to everyone somewhere near the beginning of the speech – your name and your relationship to the groom/couple.
  1. Try not to make it too in-jokey, anecdotes are great, but leave out the phrases and odd songs that are probably hilarious to you and the lads, but that most people won't get.
  2. Compliment the bride on how she looks, how great the day has gone so far, and how everyone appreciates all the work she’s done to create such a special day. Also mention about the bridesmaids looking lovely/scrubbing up well.
  3. Don't write a speech about your pub escapades with the groom, by all means tell some funny anecdotes (remember his parents will be there!) but remember that the speech should be centered on the couple and the day.
  4. Mention the parents, and what a good job they did getting the bride/groom to where they are now, whether the parents are there or not.
  5. Keep it clean – It's not a roast, so the less swearing and 'toilet' jokes the better really, think of the younger and older guests, and don’t embarrass your hosts by embarrassing their guests. Again we'll say stay completely away from ex partners of either the bride or groom, nothing good can come of it.
  6. If something went wrong on the morning/at the ceremony, allude to it, but don’t make too much of a big deal out of it.
  7. Be sincere, speak about the great times you’ve had with the groom, the couple and/or their family and wish them everything for the future.
  8. Keep it light – Although you want to be genuine and sincere, one or two more serious sentiments can be spoke about, but mainly leave it to the groom/father. Think of yourself as the fun and slightly corny entertainment beforehand.
  9. Dodgy one-liners are okay to use, but keep them to a minimum.
  10. Don't forget to toast the couple at the end!

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Gift Ideas for Your Best Man and Groomsmen:

Tickets to Their Favorite Event or Show
Giving event tickets as a best man gift is unconventional. That is precisely the reason why it increasingly sounds appealing to so many people. Since you’ve picked him as your best man, you should know his favorite sports team. If you don’t, go do some homework and it is the best way to show your sincerity. Tickets to sports events, especially those of major teams, are usually expensive. Chances are high that your best man has always loved to go watch his favorite team perform, but rarely does so. One reason could be the high ticket price. This presents you with the perfect opening and this tops my list of gifts for the groomsman.
Tech Gadgets
Deep within every one of us (especially guys), there is this insatiable desire for gadgets. This is probably the reason why such gadget shows as CES is still doing so well these days. Anything technology related always makes great best man gift in today’s world. With the speed of today’s technology there is always a new gadget out. Often if you jump on the new items out there, you can be the first to get what will in the months and years to come be something we can’t live without. After all less than 12 years ago was the birth of the tablet

Sports Gifts
 If your best man is a sports maniac, anything related to his favorite sports team is sure to be a hit. While you may not be able to find something that he doesn’t already have, you may be able to find something he didn’t know existed. Finding that obscure thing that he missed can be fun. It can be a good source for ribbing him later.

Personalized Gifts with Engravings
Do you and your best man have an inside joke that you share? Most grooms and their best men have a wide range of stories they could share. Instead of the standard of engraving you and your fiancés name along with the wedding date why not engrave something that alludes to one of your infamous trysts? This makes wonderful best man 
gifts for sure.

:Other Unique Gift Ideas
Wrist Watch - Dressy or casual with an engraving on the back of it.
Pocket Watch - If you prefer something more unique, a pocket watch to be brought out on occasion is a nice idea. Engraving could be put on the back.
Engraved Stainless Steel Swiss Army Knife or Pocket Knife - These items can always come in handy and can be easily engraved.

Have you been the best man in a wedding?
 What advice would you give other best men on how to fulfill this role? Share your advice with us in the comments.

See you on the next post,


Monday, July 22, 2013

Gifts for the Bride

This week we will talk about Gifts for the Bride.
How to choose the perfect gift for her…
Tips, trends and recommendations for choosing a gift for your lover…

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The wedding day is finally almost here. You’ve made it this far, now just be sure to finish strong by getting your beautiful bride a wedding present. Although it may seem like you’ve already purchased a ton of gifts from the parents to the groomsmen, this one is important. So take some time to really think about this one. 

When it comes to gifts for the bride, there are many different options, from traditional to sentimental to functional. One of the more traditional items that grooms give their bride is jewelry — especially a pair of diamond earrings to accompany her engagement ring. If you do your research, you should be able to find a nice pair of diamond earrings without busting the bank. If diamonds aren't the answer, a nice set of pearl earrings, necklace, or bracelet may be in store.

If you prefer to steer clear of jewelry there are plenty of other gift options out there. For example, something sentimental might be nice. Think about something that means a lot to your bride, whether it’s family, a favorite pet, or a special memory that you both shared together. You could have a sentimental picture of family or a pet taken and framed, or if you already have a picture in mind, spend some time thinking about how to incorporate it into a very nice frame. If you’re short on cash, another option is to write her an emotional or meaningful note from the heart. Feeling more adventurous? You could even take the plunge and write your own wedding vows for the ceremony. You could also opt to get your bride something she can use — especially something that might come in handy on the honeymoon, such as Sexy nightgown. 

Whatever you choose, make sure it’s something your bride would truly enjoy. Remember that the wedding day will likely be chaotic and over in a flash, so make time during theday to take your bride aside and give her that special gift. She’ll never forget it.

Traditional Wedding Gifts for the Bride From the Groom:
In addition to receiving gifts from guests invited to their wedding, the bride and groom traditionally present each other with a wedding gift, either at the rehearsal dinner or just after the wedding, when they are on their way to the honeymoon. The groom has a few traditional options if a bride and groom exchange gifts the night before the wedding, he may want to give her something to wear during the ceremony the next day.
 A necklace, such as a string of pearls, is usually a safe, traditional pick. He could also give his bride to be a more personal piece of jewelry, such as something with her birthstone or a gemstone that complements the colors of the wedding. Another idea is a small pendant necklace with the wedding date engraved on it. If the bride is changing her name, he may consider giving her a charm necklace that features her new initials.

I'd love to hear from you what gift you received for your wedding day.
Or what gift would you love to have on your wedding day? ...

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Tuesday, July 16, 2013

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The Bridesmaid:Part 2

This week we'll continue to talk about bridesmaid, Bridal party and Bridesmaid gift.

Stay with me.


Gift Ideas for Your Maid of Honor:

Your maid of honor plays a big role in your wedding. Not only is she responsible for planning your bridal shower and bachelorette party, but she also makes sure things run smoothly during the ceremony and reception. By your wedding day, the close female friend or family member you've picked to serve as your maid of honor has spent plenty of time and money to make your big day a success. She's watched you try on countless dresses, visited caterers to find the perfect cake design and been by your side through all the wedding-related worries and planning.
To say thank you for all this work, treat your maid of honor to a special gift beyond the standard bridesmaids' favors. Remember though -- this can't just be any gift. Give her something timeless that she'll enjoy for many years, or something completely luxurious that she'd never buy for herself.

Make a personalized gift:

§  Home-cooked goodies (cookies, pies, brownies, cupcakes, jars of jam or spices, etc.)
§  Handmade items (knitted scarf, painting, vase, etc. )
§  Scrapbook or photo album
§  A framed poem or a recorded song

Something entertaining:

§  Tickets to a show or sporting event
§  A set of movies featuring her favorite director or actor
§  Subscription of her favorite magazine
§  Gift certificates to a venue or theatre
§  Latest book or CD from her favorite author or artist

Something to pamper her:

§  Silk apparel (pajamas or robe)
§  Gift certificates to a boutique, luxury spa or salon
§  Bath sets or makeup kits
§  Scented candles or all natural soaps, beauty baskets

Something related to her hobbies:

§  Gym membership or workout gear
§  Gift certificate for classes she wanted to learn (dancing, singing, pottery, etc.)
§  Gadget case with her initials (travel kit, camera bag, flight bag, etc.)
§  A new cookbook or gardening guide

Food related gifts:

§  A bottle of luxury wine
§  Gift certificate to her favorite restaurant
§  Decadent chocolates
§  Deluxe picnic basket


§  Bag (tote bag, clutch, purse, etc.)
§  Personalized jewelry (earrings, necklace, bracelets, etc.)
§  Shoes (slippers or flat shoes they can wear during the reception)

§  Brooch or hair accessories


:Bridal Shower Themes and Ideas

A bridal shower is a fun way for a woman's friends and family to celebrate her, prior to the wedding. As they "shower" her with gifts, they prepare her to start her own household. Historically, bridal showers started when women wanted to marry "unsuitable husbands" and thus their families refused to provide a dowry. Friends of the couple gathered to pitch in and make up for the lack of a dowry by helping them set up house. Today, they are a time to share stories, eat great food, and pay special attention to the bride. 


The Spa Shower

Let someone else do the work of relaxing the crowd. You can bring the group to a spa or have aestheticians come to you with their magic potions and talents. Note: If guests want to have facials done, you shouldn't plan this shower too close to the wedding date. No one wants to be blotchy on the big day.

The Wine and Cheese-Tasting Shower

Nothing breaks the ice better than food, so why not make the shower all about exciting peoples' palates? Wine or cheese tastings encourage guests to nibble, compare, and talk. Local cheese mongers and wine merchants are usually happy to select a tasting menu, but you can also turn to online cheese and wine specialists for reliable, easy, delicious results.
Beach Party 

If you live near a beach, a sunset bonfire is a great cost-effective bachelorette party. Bonfire menus are simple to create, with foods that are easily heated on an open flame. Gather around the campfire and reminisce on the good old days. Don’t forget the s’mores and hot dogs! 

Karaoke: Take the bride to a karaoke bar and the fun will ensue! Task her with getting up on stage and singing a love song that reminds her of her groom-to-be. While gifts are not required, if you would like to give a gift at the bachelorette party, a CD would be a great gift to go along with the wedding planning theme.

When planning your bachelorette party, remember the guest of honor. Never plan activities where the bride would be uncomfortable, bored or too embarrassed to participate. Do you research and consult with the other bridesmaids and friends of the    brides to select the perfect night out that your guest of honor will never forget


:Bridal Shower Games

Name that Couple
What you need: name tags
How to play: Create a list of famous couples. They can be actual people (William H. Macy and Felicity Huffman), television characters (Ross and Rachel from Friends) or even cartoon couples (Mickey Mouse and Minnie Mouse). When guests arrive, write each name on a different name tag and place it on a back. Once everyone has a name tag and all couples have a “mate” represented, guests then go around the room asking for clues to guess who their character is (Am I living or alive? Am I a real person or a television character?) Once a couple has discovered their own identity and their better half, they win! 

Wedding Word Jumble 
What you need: Dry erase board or Large tablet; answer sheets and pens for each guest 
How to play: Have someone write 10-15 jumbled wedding planning-related terms (bride, groom, reception, ceremony, etc.) on the dry erase board or tablet and have guests unscramble the words on answer sheets. Whoever has the most bridal shower words unscrambled at the end of the 20 minutes is the winner.

Tissue Wedding Dress Design
What you need: Teams of three (two designers, one “model” bride); 3 rolls of tissue
How to play: Each team is responsible for designing a wedding dress out of their 3 rolls of toilet tissue. Each team has 30 minutes to complete a head to toe wedding dress look on their model “bride.” At the end of the 30 minutes, the group with the most original design wins. 
Clothespin Challenge
What you need: A box of clothespins
How to play: When guests arrive to the bridal shower, tell them a keyword or phrase that’s off-limits to say during the party and give them a clothespin to wear. Whenever a guest is overheard saying the keyword, take their clothespin and keep it for the rest of the party. Whoever has the most clothespins at the end of the shower is the winner. 
I Never
What you need: Wine or Liquor
How to play: Bridal shower guests take turns going around the room saying the words “I never . . .” and completing the sentence with a fun or outrageous action. For example, “I never . . . went topless on a beach.” If someone in the room has participated in the activity, they must take a sip of wine or a shot of alcohol. Since this game can get a little out of hand, its best if played at an overnight bridal shower or with designated drivers handy! 


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